You are better off dwelling in the real rather than wasting time searching for the ideal.
The actual quote is the mature lifter is better off dwelling in the real rather than wasting time searching for the ideal, taken from this post at Dave Draper's forum.
I read that the other day and it has stuck in my mind.
Dwelling in the real
So much of the health and fitness world is about fleeing from who we are. Sometimes this is hidden or reframed as achieving a goal, changing our appearance. Often though it is a case of a deep unhappiness with who we are.
There comes a time when we need to stop that and simply dwell in the real, to adopt some reality about who we are, what we can aim for. There is nothing wrong with seeking improvement but we need to be realistic. At 45 I will never play professional football no matter how hard I train. With my bone structure and metabolism I will never be a competitive bodybuilder or powerlifter. With my VO2 max and endurance I will never run a 3 hour marathon. Aiming for such things will be a recipe for failure and more than that discontent.
However....I can be a good enough runner and better than most people. I can develop a good physique, appropriate to my structure; I can be leaner than 90% of guys my age; I can exhibit endurance to jog or walk for 20 or 30 miles.
I can do things which are excellent for me and for my potential. The model that I can aspire to is not some shredded physique which is probably built on drugs and through superior genetic. It is not a sub 3 hour marathoner. It is me.
I think the word that sums it up is "contentment". Being happy with what you have and making the most of it.
This identity thing is also present I think in all of the mad diets. It is when people start to identify themselves with a diet.
- I am paleo
- I am gluten free
- I am primal
- I am low carb
- I am vegan
- I am a clean eater
No you are not; you are you. If you are "paleo" grains erode your identity. If you are low carb, that pasta dish will take away from who you are. As vegan you cannot eat those eggs and still be who you are.
It is all rubbish. You are not your diet....or your training (I am a Crossfitter, a runner, a HITer)